You may have never thought of it listening how to stop an argument can be a very useful tool. Especially if you want to stop arguing. In an argument each person is wanting to prove their specific point. And that is not a good or a bad thing, the intensity is so much it creates energy (emotional) blocks from hearing or being heard.
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Listening How To Stop An Argument
Growing up as a child in the late ’60s I knew of a nursery rhyme that went, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but names/words will never hurt me.”
Forty years later we know how very untrue those words are. Written before the advent of child psychology, it should be banished from children’s literature. Not only does it foster name-calling, it also encourages verbal abuse.
“Words Can Change Your Brain,” written by Loyola Marymount communication professor Mark Robert Waldman and Andrew Newberg, MD, director of research at Myrna Brind Center of Integrative Medicine at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital and Medical College, presents the argument that our minds are hardwired to respond favorably to certain types of speech and negatively to others.
The lost art of listening only results in our overreacting or not really hearing what the other person is saying.
Long-winded arguments and conversations, he says, are not useful at all since the brain can accommodate only four things at a time. “If you go on and on for five or 10 minutes trying to argue a point, the person will only remember a very small part of that. We developed compassionate communication with the idea of having several goals, and one of them is to speak briefly, meaning that you speak one or two sentences, maybe 30 seconds worth or so, because that’s really what the human brain can take in and absorb.”
Smiling or mirroring another person’s gestures are components of what the neuroscientists call compassionate communication. “A very crucial element built into compassionate communication is that notion of creating similar kinds of responses to get into almost a ritualistic cadence with another individual. As you do that, you connect with them, and the research suggests that literally it’s not just a dialogue that’s going smoothly, but it’s the brains themselves which are connecting with each other,” Newberg explained.
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Not only is listening a good tool to stop an argument it also helps relieve stress.
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